mandymom.com Blog » Christian http://mandymom.com/edublog Discipleship Schooling: A Christian, non-radical approach to unschooling Fri, 10 Oct 2008 14:41:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 Homeschooling with Prayer http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/08/13/homeschooling-with-prayer/ http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/08/13/homeschooling-with-prayer/#comments Thu, 14 Aug 2008 02:47:05 +0000 MandyMom http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/08/13/homeschooling-with-prayer/ I suppose a lot of people struggle with the thought of homeschooling.  Am I capable? Can I really teach my children all they need to know?  Is this really possible?  I didn’t struggle with any of this.  Maybe it makes me abnormal, but I knew before I even married that I was going to homeschool my children.  When I finally did tie the knot, it was simply assumed by both parties that our children would be homeschooled.

Mind you, I pretty much homeschooled myself my final year of school (combining my Junior and Senior year of highschool together, allowing me to graduate early).  That probably has a lot to do with it.  I figure, hey, if I can homeschool myself, then I can definitely homeschool my children.  (By the way, my mom fully-intended to homeschool me, but she was in a car accident and was unable.  She helped me pick out some software. And I’d tell her about subjects I was interested in.  I would plan out my work, do it, and let her check over it.)

I was in public schools for a long time, and, my goodness, I just cannot imagine subjecting my children to that sort of torture, especially the sort of harrassment that goes on between classes ranging from bullying to sexual hassment.  Anyway, I’m getting off the subject.

If you do have these sort of doubts and fears, then you have to come before the Lord and lay them at his feet.  Realize that you are not homeschooling “alone”, but there are co-ops, groups, books, software, and much more out there to help you do the job.  You don’t have to rely on your own smarts (or lack thereof), because people have banded together to assist you in guiding your children with wisdom and love.

Of course, that may cause another problem.  What sort of method do you use?  Which curriculum do you choose?  What will work best?  There are thousands of methods out there, all sorts of books and planners, and I know it can be overwhelming.

Pray. God knows your children best.  He knows their personalities.  He knows which method of learning will work the best for them.. and for you.  He know what will work, and what won’t.  God really does care about these things.  He is probably not interested in turning your kiddo into a prodigy child, but he does want to help you raise them, train them, and teach them.

I researched all sorts of curriculum and methods before I finally thought, “Maybe I should pray about this.”  After trying to use methods that really didn’t work well with my children, God opened my eyes to certain things that would, even if they were a bit unconventional.

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Family Devotional: Prayer http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/05/09/family-devotional-prayer/ http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/05/09/family-devotional-prayer/#comments Fri, 09 May 2008 16:03:13 +0000 MandyMom http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/05/09/family-devotional-prayer/ Psalm 91
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“Because he loves me,” says the LORD, “I will rescue him;
       I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.

 15 He will call upon me, and I will answer him;
       I will be with him in trouble,
       I will deliver him and honor him.

 16 With long life will I satisfy him
       and show him my salvation.” 

Nearly every morning, as we enjoy our breakfast, the children and I do a family devotional.  Today’s devotional was focused on prayer.  After we finish our meal, we get ready for the day, then meet back at the table for “projects”.  The kids always look forward to these fun crafts and often come up with a few projects of their own.

Today, we traced our hands and made “prayer hands”.  I read a few verses in the bible about prayer, then we talked about what sort of things we pray for.  We closed with each of us praying.  I LOVE listening to their little prayers.

Nolyn’s went something like this, “Tank yooo for Mommy and Daddy. Tank yoo for letting me sleep in my bedwoom. It’s really cool. Amen.”

Merika’s was a little longer. “God, thank you for Nana and Poppa.  Please help  us to behave. Especially Keagan, because he can be a little booger because he cries sometimes.  Thank you for my ring. It has bunnies on it, and I really like it because I like bunnies, even though I don’t have any.  Bunnies.”  She said a few other things, which I cannot recall, before ending with, “Love you Jesus, thank you.”

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May Edition: God will provide! http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/05/08/may-edition-god-will-provide/ http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/05/08/may-edition-god-will-provide/#comments Thu, 08 May 2008 15:36:52 +0000 MandyMom http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/05/08/may-edition-god-will-provide/ Here’s my article for the May Edition of HOTM, a homeschooling e-zine.

Lately, the Lord has really been nudging me, reminding me, and pricking my soul. There’s a lesson to learn, one that I have to learn over and over again.

Where the Lord guides, He provides.

Sometimes God gives us a list of specific instructions. Sometimes He just points us in a specific direction, destination unknown. In I Kings, chapter 17, God tells Elijah to turn eastward and head for a brook near Jordan. There, the Lord would nourish him with water from the brook and food, which would be brought by the ravens. Elijah obeyed, and the Lord followed through on His word.

My Heavenly Father has been whispering in my ear, “Depend on me. I will provide.”

Often, as homeschoolers, we wonder how we’re going to do it. Maybe you feel ill-equipped…..

Read the rest over at Heart of the Matter! 

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Homeschooling FREEDOM! http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/03/11/homeschooling-freedom/ http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/03/11/homeschooling-freedom/#comments Tue, 11 Mar 2008 19:52:21 +0000 MandyMom http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/03/11/homeschooling-freedom/ Merikalyn’s main interest this month has been writing her ABC’s.  I found her sprawled on the floor near the sliding glass door writing letters in a workbook and doing it pretty well.  I’m always amazed by her eagerness and willingness to learn.  Once she sets her mind to do something, she gives it her best.  I am sure she will be reading in a matter of months, but I’m not going to push it.

There’s been so much chatter about the big debate going on in California.  Should homeschooling parents be required to have a teaching degree?

It seems our government is trying to take more and more of our rights away.  It’s very disappointing.  What happened to freedom?

I don’t want someone else raising my children for 7-8 hours a day.  I don’t want my children to be thrown into the world before they are ready to handle bullies and ridicule.  I don’t want my children being taught by a system that does not allow God to be a part of education.

It is my RIGHT as a parent to teach my children.  There are millions of graduated homeschoolers who can prove that parents can do just as good, and in many cases, even better, than public schools when it comes to educating their child.  It infuriates me.  I am so tired of the government telling us what to do with our children!

These are the people who told me I must give birth in a hospital.  My home is just not safe enough!
These are the people who told me I must vaccinate my children, nevermind the fact that my daughter has had severe reactions!
And here they are…. telling us we are not qualified to teach our children.

Who will love my children as much as I do?  Not the school system! 

My goal is to make sure they are prepared for their future.  That is, prepared for today, tomorrow, for arguments, for friendships, for college (if they choose to go), for moving out on their own, for marriage, for children of their own, and for death.  My ultimate goal is to prepare them for Christ’s coming again.

These are MY children, children God trusted to me.  If my state tells me I cannot homeschool, I WILL MOVE.

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Homeschooling Reads http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/02/09/homeschooling-reads/ http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/02/09/homeschooling-reads/#comments Sat, 09 Feb 2008 20:52:58 +0000 MandyMom http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/02/09/homeschooling-reads/ I’ve been skimming the internet for interesting reads on homeschooling.

First and foremost, I have to mention Heart of the Matter has posted their February E-zine.  HOTM focuses on Christian homeschooling. Don’t forget to check out my column, which talked about Time With God.

Also, I came across THIS POST in a search for other Discipleship Homeschoolers.  Here’s an excerpt:

“…It befuddles me why so many homeschooling parents work so hard to emulate the public school environment at the neglect of simple biblical discipleship—text books, lectures, workbooks and worksheets—everything you’ll find in public school—none of which will be even remotely alluded to in Scripture. These tools aren’t bad. However, majoring on the minors—focusing on the things the Bible is silent on to the neglect of the things the Bible is explicit on is a bit perplexing to me. I think we really need to keep our priorities in order if we are to use homeschooling for what it is: simply, the best tool available to us parents to fulfill our biblical mandate of discipling our children. We just need to keep our priorities in order.”
              [ValuesDrivenFamily.blogspot.com]

So many wonderful posts at this blog.  I’ll definitely be making it one of my regulars!

Family Christian Academy gives biblical reasoning and guidance for homeschooling in this particular post. It’s a bit long, but worth reading.

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Discipleship homeschooling. http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/02/06/discipleship-homeschooling/ http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/02/06/discipleship-homeschooling/#comments Thu, 07 Feb 2008 01:53:10 +0000 MandyMom http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/02/06/discipleship-homeschooling/ I think this accurately describes how I look at unschooling.  Maybe discipleship schooling would be a better “label” for it.

Many ask what curriculum our family uses. I’ve answered this many ways over the years, but basically we don’t use curriculum (not if curriculum means sequentially planned resources intended to teach some content). Our curriculum is Proverbs 23:26, in which Solomon said, “My son, give me your heart, And let your eyes observe my ways.”

We use the curriculum methodology we call “Discipleship.” In “discipleship” the emphasis is not on content, but rather on relationship. If we have scriptural content, but unscriptural methodology, we will find ourselves continually struggling and defeated. If we embrace the curriculum revealed in God’s word, we walk in fulfillment, peace, and joy. And the result (fruit) of faithfully following the Lord’s design is pleasing (and glorifying to God).

This is the same curriculum Paul proposed when he said (1 Cor. 11:1), “Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.” He also described it this way (Phil. 4:9; 1 Thes. 3:7): “The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do,” and “For you yourselves know how you ought to follow us.”

One of the most frequently asked questions when homeschoolers get together is “What curriculum do you use?” How would Jesus have answered this question? He was the best teacher who ever lived! What was Jesus’ curriculum? Our initial response might be that He used the scriptures, but we don’t have a single instance of Jesus leading the apostles in a Bible study.

Jesus told His students, “Follow Me.” In the gospels this is the dominant command. When He called Peter and Andrew (Matt. 4:19; Mark 1:17), Matthew (Levi: Matt. 9:9; Mark 2:14; Luke 5:27), and Philip (John 1:43), He told each of them “Follow Me.” He told the rich young ruler (Matt. 19:21; Mark 10:21; Luke 18:22), the procrastinating disciple (Matt. 8:22; Luke 9:59), and all the disciples (Matt. 16:24; Mark 8:34; Luke 9:23), “Follow Me.”

Jesus said His sheep know His voice and “Follow Me” (John 10:27). After His resurrection His exhortation (twice) to Peter was “Follow Me” (John 21:19, 22). His call to anyone wanting to serve Him is to “Follow Me” (John 12:26). He wanted (wants) His FOLLOWERS to be “with” Him (John 17:24).

And what is the outcome? We become LIKE whoever we spend our time WITH. Proverbs 13:20 states, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed.” This works both negatively and positively. On the negative side, Proverbs 12:26 exhorts, “The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Similarly, Paul warned (1 Cor. 15:33), “Do not be deceived: ‘Evil company corrupts good habits.’”

But this also works positively. Jesus said (Matt. 4:19; Mark 1:17), “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.” The more time we spend with Jesus, the more we become like Him.

So how do we apply this to our homeschooling? The “discipleship” methodology of homeschooling involves parents directing their children’s lives (and therefor, training) by welcoming their observation and help in whatever tasks they themselves are involved in. Rather than “assigning” MEANINGLESS learning activities, the family works together on MEANINGFUL tasks that are productive for their family life. In the process, the children’s hearts are knit to the parents, and they acquire the skills and knowledge that are being used.

As parents welcome their children’s intimate involvement in their work, study, recreation, etc., the children learn to become more LIKE their parents. This is discipleship. The focus isn’t primarily on contrived experiences that provide learning opportunities, but more on moment-by-moment faithfulness in the tasks we are called to. Learning is the unsought result, rather than being the goal. When what is sought is the “kingdom of God” the by-product is “all these other things” (Matt. 6:33).

Interestingly, research bears out the effectiveness of this approach. For example, it has been repeatedly demonstrated that the best predictor of excellent reading skills is how much a person is read to during childhood. If you want good readers, read to your children. We work together, play together, read together, sing together, eat together, pray together… The key to discipleship is being (and doing) together.

Yes, I could get a lot more done without having my children distracting me. But if I want them to learn to be like me, I welcome them into my life. My call is to constantly call their hearts and their eyes (their attention). “My son, give me your heart, And let your eyes observe my ways” (Prov. 23:26). This is the curriculum we see mandated in Deuteronomy 6:6-9: “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.”

We are all already experienced at this methodology of instruction. I’ve never yet met anyone who used “curriculum” to teach their children to talk, or to walk. How did we teach these skills? We simply lived them before our babies, and as they observed us and tried to mimic us, in time they learned the skills quite well. We teach reading, writing, math, History, Geography, Science, Health, Physical Education, etc. the same way (although we don’t think in such segmented terms–it’s all life together before the Lord).

Raise and answer questions in conversation together. Teach Reading by reading aloud together (then stopping at exciting places where the children will try to read further on their own). Teach Writing through meaningful pre-writing and correspondence experiences. Teach math by handling money (a small family business?), construction, sewing, and cooking projects together. Teach History and Geography by reading adventurous missionary biographies together. Teach Science by having a garden, raising animals, and exploring & discussing God’s creation together. Teach Health by discussing and modeling good hygiene. Teach Physical Education by hiking, biking, and playing together. A child with that much “together” interaction (”following”) with his parents is going to be well educated.

[Bold Christian Living E-Mail Newsletter, Issue #56]

You can read the entire article HERE.

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Song: God Made Me http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/02/01/song-god-made-me/ http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/02/01/song-god-made-me/#comments Sat, 02 Feb 2008 01:48:07 +0000 MandyMom http://mandymom.com/edublog/2008/02/01/song-god-made-me/ by MandyMom
To the Tune of Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes:

God made me head to toes
[Head to toes]
Yes, God made me head to toes
[Head to toes]
Hairs on my head, the number my Lord knows
For my God made me head to toes
[Head to toes!]

God made me for His own
[For His own]
God made me for His own
[For His own]
And all my deepest thoughts are known
By God, who made me for His own!
[For His own]

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